How to handle the pain-body in relationships

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How to handle the pain-body in relationships

Last year I wrote this article:

6 eye-opening signs of the pain-body that you should know

so if you haven´t read it yet, I highly recommend you to read it before you dive into this article here about how to handle the pain-body in relationships.


While relationships may bring about a lot of happiness and pleasure, they can also bring about heartache and suffering. The presence of the pain-body is one of the primary causes of this pain. The accumulation of previous emotional suffering that we carry with us and might rekindle in current relationships is what Eckhart Tolle, a spiritual teacher, refers to as the “pain-body.” But how can we manage our grief and strengthen our bonds?

Become aware of your pain-body

Understanding the pain body is the first step in dealing with it. When you experience relationship triggers, pay attention to your thoughts and feelings as they arise. 

Recognize that these emotions may be influenced by past experiences and grief rather than being full established in the present. In order to comprehend the source of the pain and how to alleviate it, self-awareness is essential.

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Taking responsability for your pain-body

It’s crucial to accept responsibility for your pain-body after you’ve become aware of it. Realize that you are the one who is experiencing this agony and that it is ultimately up to you to bring about its healing. Recognizing that you are the one with the ability to alter your emotional state does not entail placing blame or shame on yourself.

Through techniques for emotional release including ecstatic dancing, writing, and counseling, one may manage the pain-body. You may fully express and let go of suppressed emotions, such as grief and suffering, via ecstatic dancing. Writing in a journal can help you identify the source of your pain, and therapy can be a useful tool for assisting you in resolving the underlying problems that are producing the pain in your body.

How do I noramlly cope with my pain-body?

Self-examination and mindfulness techniques are other strategies to manage the pain body. 

You may begin to heal and let go of your pain by taking the time to consider the cause of your suffering and comprehend where it originates from. 

Meditation and other mindfulness techniques can also assist you in staying in the present moment and avoiding dwelling on the past.

Emotional Freedom yoga retreat

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We use a range of techniques and methods to support people in managing their pain-body and enhancing their relationships during our retreats. 

We provide a safe, secure, and encouraging place where you may examine and process your emotions while also learning useful techniques for dealing with the pain-body. 

Join us for a retreat if you’re ready to start the process of healing and enhancing your relationships. You’ll be amazed at the impact it can make.

I wish you lots of awareness.


I am Tosca

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Tosca is a feminine empowerment and embodiment coach, as well as a 500-hour yoga alliance certified yoga teacher with years of teaching experience, who helped many women over the last years in gaining more self-love, joy, and pleasure in their lives. 

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Hi, I´m Tosca. Your New Self-discovery and Feminine Embodiment Coach

I am committed to guiding and empowering you on your transformative journey, offering my expertise and unwavering support along the way. I am specializing in balancing the sacred feminine & the sacred masculine, Tao Tantra for Women, and sacred sexuality. With private mentorships, retreats and group coaching, she empowers individuals to embrace their essence and experience profound personal growth.

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